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The ability to generate and to experience intrinsic self-esteem is a fundamental human need and our self-esteem dictates both how we relate to ourselves, and to the world around us. The thoughts and perceptions that we have about ourselves translate into the feelings and emotions that we experience inside, and into the conscious and unconscious messages that we send out to others. These thoughts, perceptions, emotions, and feelings all result in our unconscious and outward behaviours. If we radiate positivity, are gregarious, and are unafraid of pursuing our goals, chances are we have strong self-esteem, however on the flip side, a diminished sense of self-esteem may result in unhelpful behaviours such as avoidance, shyness, low motivation, or procrastination. These unhelpful behaviours may then hold you back from fulfilling your goals, making positive changes, and obtaining those things you desire and deserve.

 

Our self-esteem should be generated from within and controlled from within, not dependant on the introjected values that others give to us. So, why do we spend so much of our lives allowing other people to be responsible for the way we feel about ourselves? Often, the way we think and feel about ourselves lie in our belief systems that are usually created when we are very young. These positive beliefs can be very helpful to us as we grow if we are told that we are good, clever, and beautiful. On the other hand, if we have been told that we are bad, unintelligent, or lacking in some other way, then we are likely to grow into adults who will always believe those words of others, never learning to trust our own sense of self, and feeling that we can't possibly achieve what we want to throughout our lives.

Sometimes there are other reasons for low self-esteem, stress, anxiety, relationship breakdowns, and depression are all common issues that can diminish our self-esteem. Maybe there is no reason why you feel the way that you do and negative self-talk has just become a habit.

Diminished self-esteem may manifest in many ways, including:

  • High sensitivity to criticism

  • Withdrawing from social interactions

  • Always feeling irritated 

  • Hostile behaviour

  • Focusing on personal problems

  • Negative self–talk

  • Feelings of worthlessness and defeat

  • Needing lots of reassurance

  • Feeling judged

  • Self-doubt

  • Feeling shameful

  • Feeling guilty 

  • Increased pessimism 

  • Exaggerated emotions

  • Self-blame

  • Lack of boundaries

  • Putting others down or gossiping

  • Fatigue

  • Insomnia

Hypnotherapy can assist you to discover what has made you think and feel the way you do about yourself. Largely using cognitive behavioural-based (CBT) strategies, you will have the opportunity to work through these feelings, to eliminate self-defeating beliefs and negative thought patterns, to re-establish your internal locus of control, and to allow yourself to think, feel, and behave more positively.

This course of hypnotherapy can be completed over four to six sessions but some clients may require more in depth methods such as regression if a root cause needs to be explored. If this might be a possibility, it will be discussed after the first few sessions and the approach that we take then negotiated to get the best possible outcome for you. As part of your comprehensive hypnotherapeutic program, you'll be provided with voice recordings of your individualised scripts at various stages so that you can listen to them between sessions to re-enforce what you are learning and to provide ongoing support in the future should you need it.

 

Please feel free to contact me or to launch a chat if you require any more information. Alternatively, if you are ready, click the button below to book your free, no obligation initial consultation.

I look forward to meeting you and working with you soon!